BLOG OVERVIEW: We get lost in the storm of adversities, fitting to keep our head of the water. Learn why we should rise above the storm through Jesus.
The excitement for kindergarten was overwhelming. New school, new teacher, new clothes, new shoes, and new milestone. What is there not to be excited about?
I remained at home working while Stephanie and Stephen ran over to the school to pick up Fayth. First day pictures had already been taken before school started and day 1 seemed to be a wrap. We would find out how her day went and then experience the excitement exuding from Fayth’s beaming face.
It was SUPPOSE to be a good day.
Stephanie called my cell phone. This was routine for Steph after she picks Fayth up from anything. However, when I picked up the phone, there was silence.
“Babe? You okay?”
“Steph, what’s up?” Now I could hear the tears on the other line.
Steph squeaked out, “Why?”
“What happened?” I asked.
Finally getting enough composure to utter broken sentences, Steph emotionally revealed the news. “It’s the first day of school and the teacher said Fayth bit one of the kids…also, she was running all over the class and hitting a couple of other kids…the teacher had to move the other kids away from her so she wouldn’t hit them…”
I sighed a breath of sympathy toward my emotionally drained wife. “Did the teacher explain why Fayth did that?”
“No.” Crying a little more now.
“I’m sorry Babe. I know that is not what you wanted to hear. It is tough. It is a new place for Fayth. She is still in the process of checking her surroundings. But can I ask?…What exactly makes this so tough for you?” I attempted to deliver the question as gently as possible. “We know this isn’t the first time we have experienced this, but what about this time makes this experience so hard?”
“I don’t know. Maybe because I am pregnant and am already frustrated. But I think it is really because we try so hard to teach her not to bite or hit, but nothing seems to stick. I am so tired of her not listening. It was her first day and her teacher probably thinks she is a bad kid. Oh, and we are probably bad parents too. No kid wants to be her friend either.” Tears came streaming again. It might be important to know, she was 39 weeks 4 days pregnant with our 3rd child.
I concluded this initial conversation. “Steph, I know this is hard, but we will keep working on it. This doesn’t mean she is a bad kid or we are bad parents. This is simply the hurdle we must overcome. We are growing Babe. Just as Fayth is growing as a kid, we are growing as parents. This doesn’t make it easy or always enjoyable, but we will keep working at it. Life won’t always be this way. Believe it or not, there will be a day we get to look back on this time and maybe even laugh a little. I love you Steph and you are doing a TREMENDOUS job. You work so hard with Fayth and you amaze me. We will get through this Steph.”
Steph, Fayth, and Stephen arrived back home. We continued our conversation after I greeted my little Peaches. I held Fayth, asked her how the day went, and gave her Daddy’s kisses. I wanted to simply love on her. There is no correcting what had happened because she probably doesn’t comprehend the biting episode. She simply wouldn’t understand.
But she does understand when she comes home, Daddy is here to love and hold her. This I could do.
Likewise, I gave Stephanie a hug and kiss. Stephen I tackled.
Overcoming Difficult Reports
Life is full of challenges and difficulties. Some are foreseen and others are great at blind-siding us.
But how are we able to withstand those moments of adversity in family and marriage? Those moments where you feel as though you have just been kicked in the gut.
To some variation, we have all received earth-rattling reports either from doctors, bosses, teachers, administrators, children, and even spouses. Reports that change the trajectory of our day, week, month, year, or life. How do you handle these adversities? Not to mention how to overcome these adversities.
How do you handle a new life? A different life?
Or maybe it is the same BAD REPORT and you are tired of receiving it like Stephanie. When will life ever change? Can it ever change?
The ocean is NOT so pretty when you are sinking in the middle of it.
Rising Up Out Of The Water
One of those lessons is perseverance through faith. To keep moving and fighting is exhausting and immensely impossible without faith.
The world is increasingly teaching how to be better, stronger, and more successful through self-help. What we have learned is self-help leaves you drained and drowning after a period of time.
We need a little more Spirit-help, Jesus-help, faith-help.
Why Is Walking On Water A Good Option
Self-help teaches you how to swim proficiently and many times successfully. Many people can become really great at it as well.
But what happens when the storm hits? The larger than life hurricane?
A couple of months ago, Steph told me about a vision she had. She explained she was in the middle of the ocean, treading water. Off in the distance, she saw the shore. Then she looked up and saw Jesus.
She asked me what I thought it meant. I didn’t give her an initial answer. So reached out to my alternate ego.
Okay, maybe not alternate ego. It was my twin sister Jamye. Jamye and Stephanie have developed a tremendous bond over the past few years as Steph has been discipled by Jamye.
Side Note: Jamye is inspiring many women like Stephanie to awaken their hearts, fulfill their dreams, and walking confidently in Jesus. Check her out at Jamye Sack Ministries or grab her book The Red Carpet Heart. You can also check out her book’s website RedCarpetHeart.com.
Jamye asked her where Jesus was standing. Steph didn’t think about it at first and wasn’t sure. Jamye wanted to know if He was standing next to her or on the shore. After thinking about the vision more, Steph realized He was standing next to her as she was treading water. They wrapped up the conversation and Steph told me what Jamye had said.
After hearing some of Jamye’s explanation, I interjected before she could finish,
“Why swim to the shore when you can walk on water?”
There it was. It blew me away as much as it did to Stephanie.
It’s so simple.
When Jesus called out for Peter, Peter didn’t jump into the water and start swimming. Have you ever thought about this? Why didn’t he swim?
Peter stepped out onto the water and started walking. When the waves came and DISTRACTED him, he started to sink. Jesus responded with, “You of little faith…Why did you doubt?”
Many of us experiencing adversities through bad reports, or the continuation of bad reports, might be trying to swim when Jesus wants us to walk.
We walk on water, adversities, when we place our faith fully in Jesus and walk in His Spirit.
Faith will take us to the next milestone. Faith will teach us to keep fighting. Faith will keep us strong. Faith will deflect enemy’s flaming arrows of lies, deceit, and doubt. Faith gives us the power not only to rise up out of our challenges, hardships, and adversities, but WALK ON OUR ADVERSITIES.
Many of us are overcome by adversities and Jesus wants us to learn how to WALK ON OUR ADVERSITIES.
Renewing Your Strength
Many of us are tired and exhausted from the continual bad reports, but Jesus has a new way. Jesus has the perfect way. Jesus has the right way.
Walking in faith that will renew your strength, heart, soul, and mind.
We are a living testimony to NEEDING more JESUS and FAITH to weather the storms we encounter with Fayth.
Thank you Jesus for teaching us through Fayth/faith once again. You are AMAZING!!!