14 Ways For Kids To Understand Failure Correctly

BLOG OVERVIEW: Kids are learning about failure, but what are they learning. Kids need to understand failure correctly and the teaching must come from the parents.

14 Ways To Understand Failure For Kids

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The dueling princes battled on the ground as their floating castle disappeared into the sky. This is the backdrop of Disney’s movie Up.

Are you missing something? You saw the movie right? Confused yet?

Ed Catmull, the co-founder of Pixar and Disney Animations, wrote how Pixar creates movies in his book Creativity, Inc. Catmull’s book was reviewed at The Secret To Pixar’s Success: Failure on Buzzfeed published in April of 2014.

Catmull reveals Pixar’s creation process is working through failure. Pixar invites failed attempts. Catmull describes that many of Pixar’s movies never end up how they first began. In fact, some of the movies are drastically different at the end of production.

Could Catmull’s and Pixar’s view of failure be shedding light on how parents should teach kids to understand failure?

Yes. I believe so.

Helping Kids Understand Failure By Redefining Failure

Failure is a word many scare away from. Adults avoid failure in fear for their job security. Kids avoid failure to eliminate the possibilities of discipline.

Could this all be because failure is misunderstood and taught?

Parents have the opportunity to reshape and redefine failure for their kids. Preparing children for the potential fails in life, sets them up for success.

Kids must learn a new understanding to failure. And fear of failure is definitely NOT one of them.

14 Ways To Understand Failure (no particular order):

  1. Parents Fail. Yes, you are not perfect and you know it, but do your kids?
  2. Most successful people have been failures. Tell them stories about people who have failed, but learned from it and grown.
  3. Surround yourself with people who will help you through failures. Kids need the right influence to help them grow through failures.
  4. Failure is an event, not a person. Thank you Zig Ziglar.
  5. The multitude of failures doesn’t negate success. It is not a tally sheet. More fails does not harness success.
  6. Quitting is the crippling failure. Quitting is the only thing that really brings permanent failure.
  7. Failed attempt is just one step closer to finding a solution. Keep working through the failure, it will just be one step closer to success.
  8. Failure should NOT shut you down. Do NOT allow failure to be a shutoff valve.
  9. Allow failure to spark new ideas. Learn from your failures to break ground for new ideas. Often these failures will allow others to see differently or with new eyes.
  10. An avoidance of failure is the avoidance of success. Do not run from failure, but embrace it.
  11. Failure needs to have a short shelf life. Kids should not allow failure to hang over their head. Push through.
  12. Failure teaches us how to correct. See failure as a teaching moment.
  13. Failure will reveal weak points. Until you see failures, you will not recognize weakness.
  14. God loves using failures. Just take a quick scan through scripture: Moses, David, Jonah, Peter, Paul, etc.

What would you add for kids to understand failure better?

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